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Penny Williams
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The interest/urgency motivation isn’t a choice. It’s their brain. They don’t think that they don’t have to do things that aren’t fun, they just struggle with the skills to get those things done, because it’s not inherent in their biology.

You’re exactly right on turning things into a game or finding a way to make them interesting. It’s all about using strengths and interests to overcome some weaknesses.

Natural consequences are a part of life and they are totally appropriate. But kids with developmental disabilities aren’t always able to act on the lesson of a natural consequence at a future date. It also has to be about addressing lagging skills and solving the problems that are at the root of the behaviors.

Penny
ADDitude Community Moderator, Author & Trainer on Parenting ADHD, Mom to teen w/ ADHD, LDs, and autism