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pmerrill
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I have a 14 year old daughter that was recently diagnosed. We also live in complete CHAOS. She lives completely in the moment following whatever she wants at that moment. Trash, expensive items of clothing, her homework, it doesn’t matter what it is, everything ends up being thrown all over our home. We live in a state of crazed searching about half of the time trying to locate whatever she has lost at the moment that she thinks she has to have right then. I have been calling her back to pick up, shut off lights, ask her what she missed, for 8-10 YEARS. Yes – that’s right – YEARS. I want to think this will improve, but I have days where I worry that I’m losing hope.

I work outside the home 40 hours every week and have a commute that is about an hour each way every day. We are unable to have people over. Our home is a giant source of shame.

I guess my point is, you are not alone.