Reply To: Looking for some hope


This post hurts my heart. He means well, I assume he’s a good guy, probably has a big heart. Shows moments of brilliance followed up by weeks of languishing frustration trying to find which buttons he pushed in what order like he was 12 years old again playing mortal combat for the first time. I know because that’s me, too. I am of two minds.. maybe the best thing for him is to file for divorce. Pull the security blanket from under him. Force him to really focus on better self care, better, more mindful treatment. A solid 8-hours, exercise, possible stimulant meds, supplements, meditation, etc. The other part, the part that’s been through the devistation of divorce. And not a day goes by that I wish I could have done it differently. Dr. Hallowell stresses all the time to, “find the right job and marry the right person.” I think I had her. You very well maybe that person for him. If you tough it out, I have a feeling it may get worse before it gets better. And I say that only because I know if he really buckles down to transform his life, with your help, he may get frustrated at the lack of immediate progress. It’s taken me 3 years to get where I’m at. I want to help. I want it all to work out in the end for you two. First step maybe to be brazenly honest with him. Watch this, maybe even watch it with him. It’s almost 3 hours long, and even though it’s in regards to children, it’s still remarkably relevant.