How are you doing now? What was the outcome?
In retrospect, I think ADD and denial are totally separate issues, although they both are linked to shame and self-image.
Lots of people with ADD have totally erroneous beliefs about self-control — thinking they can control behaviors that they can’t control.
Meanwhile, the shame and self-esteem problems trigger various coping mechanisms such as denial, which
creates new problems beyond the ADD itself. The problematic coping mechanisms aren’t beyond their control, but they
can’t afford to relinquish denial and the comfort it provides, until they correct erroneous beliefs about what to expect of themselves,
and until they have a more realistic sense of themselves being valuable for other (more appropriate) reasons, like loving family.