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Keypher – He is not on any medicine at all and needs to get to the clinic to see a specialist. Thank you for your insight and suggestions, I appreciate it! I wouldn’t say we are prefect right now, it seems like we are both stressed and frustrated because we can’t seem to give each other what we want. I’ve been hanging on for a little over a year now, ha! I’ve been patient, but the lack of ambition is really disappointing. Trying not to lose all hope yet because he is a great person.

-Gina.Tilly – What kind of situation were you in if you don’t mind me asking? My issue with staying and not running is the fact he’s not purposefully tried to harm me (obviously there have been some dangers because of the ADD, but nothing malicious) and I worry that maybe I’m too picky with my partners. However, I do tend to hang onto relationships well past their expiration date. It’s just very difficult for me to let go of someone I’ve shared so much with and really care for. I’m not sure how to get out of the emotional rut I’m in and asking him to move out would be traumatic. I also find myself wondering though if there is someone better suited out there for me for a life partner. The fact I’m afraid to have children with him is probably a red flag in my life. He’s just too scattered to raise a child and although he wants a child, he literally couldn’t afford to. I mean we COULD but our lifestyle would have to change drastically. Lord, if I knew falling in love with someone with untreated ADD was going to be this stressful, I’m not so sure I would have done it. We’ve had some very amazing memories together though and there are a lot of positives, but there are also those nagging negatives that make me question our compatibility for the future.

Thanks!