Hi, I have been in your situation a lot lately.
I am in my 30’s dating a guy who has baggage and
Also adhd. He purposely makes me go running with him or to the gym when I’m angry. That makes me angrier and I recently had a screaming all-out tantrum after 5 miles because I hate to run. I try to go to the batting cages or do something fun that wears me out.
Also I am going back to therapy to deal with this as it’s never been this bad. The other night I started cleaning his place because he acts and lives like a 20 yr old-no offense. Dishes everywhere, piles of clothes on the couchetc. I don’t know if I can handle it he says I have split personalities.
Find your outlet it will help.