So, short of separating, or living separately at least, there are no solutions/suggestions? I am hoping for an empathic strategy for communicating how desperate I am without it just seeming like ‘nagging’. I have been married for 38 years. We have separated twice and if things don’t change then 3rd time will be permanent. Oh! …and to top things off, he is legally blind so doesn’t have all the visual cues to remind him to do things.