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Hi, I have never written on a blog in my life, but feel rather desperate looking for answers. I have been in a relationship also with a beautiful man for 18 months, he is 60 , I am 51 and have experienced every time we have gone away or he comes home from a holiday he does weird stuff that looks like sabotage. When this first happened we were on a road trip and out of nowhere he had incredibly unreasonable, and uncalled for anger outbursts, verbally abusing me, and lots of crazy making behaviour, there was no arguing with him as he just became more and more loud. At the time neither of us knew he had adhd, but after this went on a few more times and eventually i left, I googled adhd and anger outbursts and to my complete suprise it was part of the disorder. I went back with this knowledge to continue to strategise and try to work it out as we both love each other very much. but unfortunately there seems to be no room whatsoever in this relationship for discussion as my partner stonewalls me and when I am forced to go, not once has he fought for me. This is the hardest part, as I have fought so hard to be a good partner and love very well, but it hurts too much to continue and not be fought for. It seems like there is one world that we have both lived in physically and emotionally and that is his world which I have been happy to live in, but anytime recently i have asked for him to enter my world he shuts down.. why is this, I can only surmise it is because of fear of rejection. I can only describe it like he lives within this circle and if he is asked to step outside of it he would rather quit than do so. The relationship is now over because of it and I am feeling very heartbroken as he would be … Can anyone help please