So it is not just me that this happens to, that is good to know. That said has anyone figured out a way to stop focusing on something or more specifically, someone? I seem to be unable to do so at all even when things are all bad and I do not want to think of this person. Am I just out of luck? Avoid them for as long as it takes? I just have always had such issues focusing on someone who there is no way could develop into a healthy relationship and then not being able to stop. It is incredibly frustrating.