Reply To: Help! computer and ipad are destroying my kids


I completely feel everyone’s frustration here! I have a 10 year old ADHD daughter that brings her ipad home from school that turns into another child when I try and get her off of it! I’ve grounded her again from it other than school activities this week, but she’s always trying to wiggle her way in with I’m researching or reading. She is an avid reader and there are so many resources on it, but I catch her doing other things as well, such as mindless video games! My problem is that while I work from home, I’m a single mom without a support system nearby. I’m fortunate to be able to be home for my kids but I also can’t spend my work hours monitoring every moment or fighting with them over when they need to get off! Their father is in the computer security industry and gives them as much screen time and Mind Craft/device time as they want at his house and they come home every other weekend extra hyper 🙁 I’ve tried to speak to him about it but we don’t see eye to eye on this among other things (he doesn’t think ADD or ADHD exist). Next year my 8 year old son who has ADD will also begin bringing home his ipad and I’m already cringing!

They also call me out on my phone, which I admit is my source of the outside world. As I said, I work from home with no real interaction with adults most days. I use my phone as a tool to text friends, talk to coworkers or just unwind at times. I know I shouldn’t, but I do use it sometimes more often than I should. I do have firm boundaries of not using at specific times and also trying to give them my full attention when I am able and put the phone down. I’m exhausted and running out of ideas and patience, so it’s very nice to see others in similar circumstances with good recommendations!