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lakeriewilliams
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Omg, I absolutely LOVE seeing this post in existence! I too am of the combined type. I’ll be 39 next week, married with 4 children. Diagnoses presented itself a couple times as a child but my parents were against it because they felt o was being misplaced in a racist title due to the stigma it had on a lot of misdiagnosed African American youth whom teachers just did not know how to properly educate of work with. Long story short, my struggle was real but I had to adjust in the worst way-but it is doable. I had the opportunity to get diagnosed again at 19, but I stubbornly refused to allow the diagnosis to be attached because I wanted to ignorantly prove I was just as good, if not better, than anyone else without the label. Fast forward to my first year in law school, after passing ALL the essay portion of the 1L exams (but failing miserably on the multiple choice), my Contracts professor was shocked to learn (it was anonymous grading) that the perfect essay paper she graded from me resulted in a C. All my grades were the same and I was a sneeze away from academic probation, alrhohhh I knew the law just as well, if not better than my peers. My boyfriend, turn Fiance (and now husband) at the time was in his second to last year of dental school and he convinced me to go beyond my stubbornness and allow them to know my truth (ADHD). Long story short, do for retested just to prove what I already knew from the ages of 4,7,11, & 19- I was ADHD of the combined type. Nope, didn’t grow out of it, nope, not the ADD silent girl type frequently wrote about, but the good old classic ADHD combined type-the very essence of blurting our, interrupting, talkative, bossy, energetic and everything that is supposed to be what they say the males are. I finally allowed the truth to be attached to me and by way of my rights through the ADA, has my accommodations given with my test (time and a half) and oh my gosh the difference it made! Everyone always got As off my work because of how I am able to disssvr Dow outlines and notes-because of what works for me. I can take a 40 page lecture and county sense it to 8-10 pages that make sense to my crazy brain, a brain of someone with autism, and a brain of someone with not disorders and it made sense. I even made honor roll my last year of law school, traveling between states and pregnant the entire year! I didn’t start taking medications until after 30, and even then, off and on b/c of pregnancy and nursing. I’ve been pregnant ( times (had a miscarriage on pregnancy #4) and breastfed all 4 of my boys (yes, all boys-and one who is autistic and I believe one of my younger ones shows signs of possibly also having ADHD) for a year so no medication during those times. My children are currently 2,7,9&11 (all have birthdays coming up this year) and I’m married to a man that has suffered all the issues written about those being married to an ADHD spouse, but in this case, the spouse is a woman.

I share only to encourage and let you all know none of you out there are alone. I’m
I’m Southern California, not Vancouver, but I would love for us to like maybe create a Facebook group or even something like GroupMe or just an email club where we connect. We can maybe do a free conference call once a month, submit birthday emails or greeting caress, be there for one another as a support group and understand this is not a lonesome journey because technology has allowed the world to be so much smaller. I’m game to be open about my situation because it can be a blessing to others and I too can learn and be embraced by all of you. Also, for the ones dealing with children who have ADHD like some of us, we can offer support from experience. My story is often considered phenomenal because of the limitations they put on many of us with certain disabilities. Well I’m a loving testimony that the sky is the limit and that just because a child is different doesn’t mean they cannot succeed! I’ve earned 3 degrees, taught a writing course at a Tier 1 university and have proven time and time again that the sky is the limit-even with my son that has autism…he is in 3rd grade and has been the top ranked academically in his general education classroom consistently (even though he still has pull out services for RSP and speech). I understand legally how to be certain the school systems, public or otherwise, are held accountable and properly educating those of us with different brain functions. We are all owed certain opportunities and should not be ostracized because certain educators are not properly trained in how to accommodate or teach children and young adults that have diverse brain functions. So no! None of you are alone, but let’s figure out a way for us to come together so we know that beyond reading an article. Everyone cannot afford coaching or certain therapy, etc., but if you can read this article you can respond and we can make this happen.

My email is lakeriewilliams@hotmail.com I’m ready for us to support each other. Let’s not just talk about it, let’s be about it!