I am grateful for all the response And so glad I am not alone in this battle. I am working on finding a doctor. As for my family, I am trying to adjust my expectation so I don’t set my self up for disappointment. Since they are 3 hours away I am focusing on building my life and not worried about them. As for my kids, I am trying to keep in touch and be supportive. I do a lot of grinning and smiling. I realize no one wants to hear about Adhd. I hold on to the fact that one day my kids will have their own kids and find out it is not so easy to be a parent. I hope to have my own Adhd figured out and when the grandkids come alone I will be an awesome grandma. Thanks for taking the time to respond.