DanaB, it sounds like you presented a well-thought-out set of options for him, that’s great! Your guy sounds a lot like our guy, except our guy is not so wild about leaving hoe because he doesn’t want anything to change (autism/routine-y). But we are in a rut and something has to change-up for him to approach things differently. They ARE good kids and we will help them as they mature, more slowly but they will get there!