Individuals with ADHD are as much as 30% less mature than same-age peers. That’s a huge gap in functioning. We are so programmed to think that age is when kids should be able to function independently, that it’s hard to accept and remember that our kids with ADHD just aren’t likely to be successfully independent at 18.
It is important to have goals and facilitate independence too, of course.
ADDitude Community Moderator, Author & Trainer on Parenting ADHD, Mom to teen w/ ADHD, LDs, and autism