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Mattcolo, so many great questions! I can relate. Took me a long time to learn that fitting in is not a satisfying objective in life. My viewpoint used to be that I was different, and everyone else could relate to each other, but my focus was always on my reality, not theirs. Now when I approach people with a different mindset-how can I contribute to the situation, what can I bring/how can I be of use to others, and it has changed my interactions, made them more satisfying and the alienation I used to feel is replaced with the connection I was always seeking. It really helps me to be present. And self acceptance-Everyone is different in one way or another. It’s not about fitting in (thank God! I could never camouflage well) it’s about contributing my part.