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I have not found suitable medication and I have been retired for 13 years. If I had started at age 45 i would have become accustomed to their assistance but doing without i did have avery successful career until I didnt. Some of the symptoms were addressed by staff working with me, particularly organization, timeliness, diplomacy, and the celebration of our successes.
BUT RSD Reared. Its ugly head. FAr more often as I aged i found i verbally reacted to almost any slight. When the object of my verbal tirades became the suppliers of services to my clients, i knew I could not continue without seriously jeopardizing the organization and i chose to sell the business. (All staff are still employed 13 years later)
As a typical ADHDer i have had a few wives who all have reached or are about to reach retirement age suitably financed. The one exception is me the financier.
So would I quit taking meds which would have helped me deal with the issues of this condition. It would be like parting with a prosthetic arm or leg if I were an amputee late in life. Not a chance.
To put it bluntly i doubt if you have days like this and I at least have VenlaFaxine to help me accept these days and chuckle after i thaw out.

IThe story of my life and i didnt find out til i was 70 raging AdHD that is. I absolutely cannot talk at the checkout about anything and give the right answers to debit or credit card transactions. I now warn people behind me at costco that the register will break when i am in the line and to assume it will take 15 minutes for me to check out. Same at the grocer… i now never use the express line.. unfair to others i think. As to cooking this weeks todos were forgetting to,set the microwave timer for half the cooking time so I can flip the pork chop, burger, or fish fillet and cook both sides. Yesterday i shut my ipads down completely and missed my cardiologists appointment 2 hours late and the same for a mens group meeting later that day. By the way fish fillets charcoaled oneside raw on the other are edible. Pork chops not so much. Two consecutive days last week
i have two ipads so that my timing alarms willactually go off and miss set them at least twice a week.
Talking while driving totally wacks me. I have driven through an intersection i am supposed to turn at completely to ppthe other side of the city 30miles away.
You can imagine my relief when i found out this was ADHD not Alzheimers.and of course Sunday Monday were one continuous disaster. Went to church after breakfast just making it in time for Choir , stayed after for coffee and finished my 4th cup including breakfast, then decided i should order my Meds at the pharmacy on the way home. Couldnt actually buy them cuz i forgot my wallet. I also forgot to visit our newly renovated washrooms before leaving. Now i rush out of pharmacy to car in cold wintery weather and start for home on a cold car seat. You can guess the result which has never happenned before but i tried. Didnt even stop for car gas and air in that front tire Still the spare from a flat two weeks ago.
Made it home and rushed in to change my trousers, The next day i lost my glasses and was desperately looking everywhere but had to wear an old pair which kept losing a lense. That evening on my way to singing at a senior Rez my tire went flat on my way to pick up gas and the lense dropped out of my spare pair. Of course i was 30minutes late for a 45 minute concert. Drove home later and looked all over the floor of the car. Unfortunately i left the interior lights on, the temp went down to Zero and next day my 5 year old battery would not start the car for an already late Drs appointment. You know the rest. And its only Wednesday. Thank god i had nothing planned for today …I think.