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bearlyt
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It may be there, I’m not sure. She is guarded. She had a break up recently, and it was a silent treatment or ghosting. (I was there for her) always as a freind. This is the first for me, I think so one she is guearded due to fear of being hurt, but maybe that I would not want to be involved with her due to her ADHD. She doesn’t want to hurt me?

I know she has fear of failure, I see it readily, and she shuts down when she is overly stressed. Again simple task seem insurmountable to her. But her day to day, she functions I think quite well. I remember how she almost didn’t pass her college exams. But she powered through it and completed her degree. I was proud of her. But she never knew because we weren’t that close then.

I’m just confused. It seems she wants more and is scared. I’m not. Just need clues or something.