First off, Wow! I cant imagine your frustration. I have 3 children, all with ADHD. My Daughters were struggling at school but not with their ability to do the work. They would daydream and take a long time to complete work. Luckily we have a great Dr in our town who specializes in children with ADHD. One of my daughters has more of a struggle emotionally with hers and she would internalize it all day at school. Once she got in the car at the end of the day, she lost it. Every single day. No matter what I would tell her teachers and even the counselor at school, they never saw her struggles at school. I ompletely understand that part. I would most defiantly seek another opinion. Even his pediatrician could help. We did ine of my daughters that way until we were able to have her seen with the specialist. Hang in there. I know it is hard, but once the ball starts rolling (and lots of tears will roll too). It will get better.