If your husband wants you to be diagnosed, I’d think he’d be willing to talk (or email…) to your therapist. It might seem impossible to ask him, but if it is for your son’s health and future success (seeing his mother succeed means he can, too), I’d take a deep breath or 7 and follow up. If that really can’t happen, ask your therapist for another way to be evaluated. Even seek out a second opinion, like you would with a questionable physical health diagnosis.
Learn and apply what tools might help you. Re-evaluate your opinion of medications at some point in the future (6 months, a year…)if you don’t feel like you’ve gotten “far enough”. (I do not want meds for myself because of potential side-effects that I’ve experienced with other related prescriptions.)