Hi Cynthia, I was in my 30s some 18 yrs ago. Recently divorced and knew I had to get diagnosed once and for all because I can’t afford not to. I had to take care of myself. I had no one and in a new city and starting a new career. I’m highly intelligent as many of us are gifted that way, and always managed to navigate life to get into colleges of my choice, even jobs I did not qualify for! I was also popular in school and able to figure things out. However, life has always seemed surreal, always fun, but not necessarily easy. It wasn’t so much a problem growing up, there was not much responsibilities to burden day to day activities. Even so, life always seemed like a big fog. It was difficult to grasp reality for me. I lived moment to moment with little care for consequences until my failed marriages. I attended a PAC 10 college, and did not “looked”like someone with A.D.D. as I was told by the first psychiatrist I saw. He told me I couldn’t possibly have A.D.D. as I “looked” like I came from money and I’m simply DEPRESSED because of my divorce. He went on to tell me only construction-type male has A.D.D. I begged him to just give me the test, just please give me a test. He refused and sent me away with a prescription for PROZAC! I left and never went back. Now, does this sound similar to your story? You bet! I then proceeded to see another and finally in my real “depression” saw a therapist (for my divorce sadness) and confided in him that I suspected I have A.D.D. but no doctors would give me a test. I was fortunate because my Therapist felt I had all the symptoms and referred me to one of the best in my city. I was wait-listed couple months, got diagnosed and 18 years later, still see the same A.D.D./ADHD Specialist for my monthly prescription. I have all the symptoms you have, without the diagnosis, it would be impossible to stay focused and be in a high stress sales career. There’s no cure, so I was told, but I can’t live without a prescription. While it may be addictive to some, I did not have that problem. Like most with A.D.D., I questioned if it was all an excuse, I still do all the time. But I also know that if I go off meds for a prolonged period of time, I’m one unmotivated lump! Cynthia, I encourage you to be firm and insist on getting a proper diagnosis because while there’s no known “cure”,getting diagnosed and getting proper treatment can definitely effect your life for the better. I wish you the best, and always remember, while A.D.D. Is burdensome, we also have gifts the linear thinking normal people do not have. We are special, never forget that. Cheers to a new life.