Tracking for rewards and consequences never worked for us. Every time It came to taking something away it resulted in drama.
Stars, coins, tickets anything.
Thinking about it, may be anyone would not like to be tracked this way.
What works for us is a concept called immediate star. If he does something nice, kind, organised, helpful, loving that in-line with values, I give him immediate star on his hand and shower him with praise.
Second thing that works for us is one-liners like ‘we make things, we don’t break things’ or ‘we conserve water, we don’t waste water’. Once I come up with a satisfying one liner, I don’t need to manage my emotions plus
Find the words. All I do is repeat same
Words again and again till the habit is finally built.
Hope this helps.Take care.