Faith is good. Working through these kind of issues requires a healthcare professional with training and experience in this field. Unfortunately religious institutions do not require any formal training in couples counseling nor in ADHD. Using someone with good intentions and spiritual guidance is good, particularly for the nonADHD partner to vent frustrations and pray for more patients lol! However it could backfire if using them for couples counseling for this because they won’t have the depth nor breath of understanding of ADHD symptoms to actually provide the help required. Instead it can turn into a “ganging up” situation as the religious leader starts to hold the ADHD partner more accountable & lay blame on the partner not knowing these are ADHD symptoms & not a lack of caring or reasoning by the ADHD partner. Don’t be so hard on yourself. It’s hard & confusing and frustrating and maddening that there isn’t more that we know or can do or have common knowledge of management tools for ADHD partner relationships.