It is difficult to put the responsibility on our kids and relinquish control. Especially when they have differences and we have spent so much time helping them all these years. Your fear is valid, and human. Accept and validate your feelings about it, then you can move past it and start using that energy for something more productive.
It’s so very hard, but you can totally do it. And, your daughter will very likely succeed in the end, just in her own way, with more bumps, and on her own timetable.
ADDitude Community Moderator, Author & Mentor on Parenting ADHD, Mom to teen w/ ADHD, LDs, and autism