Your response helps. Thank you for taking the time to share your experience with me.
I think you hit the nail on the head when you wrote, “If it’s denial, and not wanting to be different, and not wanting to need extra help, then that’s a whole different ballgame to engage in. And much more difficult to overcome.”
Thanks to your post (and the articles you cited) I have been reading up on avoidance. Do you have any suggestions on how to tackle this obstacle?