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I am not an ADHDer but I am someone who has completely lost themselves in a relationship before. That question that she asked you, “who are you without me?” is an extremely difficult one to face, but an important one. Who are you? And who do you want to be?
May I suggest some counseling. It helped me. It took awhile, but I was so very proud when I found me. And the relationships I formed after taking care of myself first were much more satisfying, even when they didn’t work out. Kind-of like I was more anchored. So when I did eventually meet the man that ended up being my husband – I felt more centered, more solid, more confident.
I am so sorry for your breakup. Take comfort in your friends and family. It will get better. Don’t worry about making her proud, make yourself proud.