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So sorry to hear you both are dealing with all of that! ADHD and ODD by themselves are such a struggle, I can’t imagine what they are like together.
I can see how the school thinks punishing her will work, but they just don’t understand her diagnoses. Of course punishments won’t work. They will just continue to push her farther away from wanting to attend school and learn.
I think it’s important to continue to have open discussions with the school about her progress. Maybe even involve an outside counselor for your daughter to visit with and to help the school see how best to help her and see her progress.
As for helping your daughter, I’m not an expert but I do know of a few resources that might help. Creating structure and following a routine is key. And rewarding is too. It won’t be perfect, there will have to be compromises, but that’s just how it is.
ODD seems to be misunderstood too and I’ve had to do my own research to better understand it. Here are a few infographics that I’ve found helpful with understanding them and deciding which steps to take next.