If being tired and hungry are triggers, start working on those issues. Can you make sure she has a snack high in protein every 3-4 hours? Can you help her sleep better? The only way to change behavior is to address the reasons for the behavior.
Remaining calm is PARAMOUNT to your success with your daughter. The more emotionally intense you get, the more her intensity will flare.
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