What does work is Collaborative Problem Solving — working with your child instead of dictating in an authoritarian relationship. Showing empathy and validating their feelings. Recognizing that your child isn’t giving you a hard time, your child is having a hard time. Roos Greene’s books, The Explosive Child and Raising Human Beings, detail this approach.
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