Unfortunately in my experience most ADHD kids don’t get invited over to other people’s homes for play dates for obvious reasons and it would be rare that someone (other than possibly another ADHD parent) would offer to take your children for a few hours much less a day. My suggestion is to get the professional help you need, to include medications if appropriate, so you can be more effective in managing life for the sake of your children. My ADHD son is now 20 and fortunately we did get him the help he needed but unfortunately I did not and I was you! Please don’t hesitate to get the help you need to cope with your own ADHD so you can more effectively parent your children. We cannot change the past but we can certainly do something today.