Oh,my gosh, will you all be my friends? Honestly, the OP and every one of you has said something that makes me want to hold hands with you and weep because there’s someone who gets it. I feel like I am giving it all I got, but how my 17 year old is going to make it in college or hold down a regular job is beyond me. Family members who DO NOT get it think Im just enabling him. I feel like the deck is stacked against him. Im coming to grips with the fact that there are some skills he just isn’t going to acquire in time for college. He maybe needs an extra 10 years to ease into adulthood, so maybe I just need to take the pressure off and give him until he’s 30 to leave the nest. Darn everything. Leave us alone, you non-ADHD people, you and your neurotypical timeline and expectations are what’s wrong here. We’re doing the best we can.