Have you looked at what you can do to be less impulsive and more organized? Maybe there is more you can do to manage what you call your ‘symptoms’. My husband has ADD, and we often argued because he did not keep promises, he forgot things, he lost things, etc. He was not willing to see an ADD coach, but he was willing for us to see one as a couple. We are exploring how we can interact better, considering our different styles. It is helping.
All the best,