1, He’s winning, you’re losing. Get *yourself* a therapist and find out why you’re allowing a NINE-year-old to dominate you. 2, Get him a new therapist who will get him new meds that will bring him down into a more normal behavior pattern. 3, Take control of your family. Set boundaries without apology and enforce them. Deprive him, confine him, spank him, whatever works to make him behave and to allow you to regain control and sanity. 4, This is much, much more, and worse, than simply AD/HD. You need a specialist. Most doctors know next to nothing about these issues. Find a certified, qualified specialist who can help you.