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It was super hard for me because I have significant social anxiety and my brain already over-worries about what people think of me.
Once I recognized that people don’t know our story, and practiced staying mindful of that, I did a lot better. I know I’m a good parent and I’m doing the right thing in those meltdown moments (which isn’t punishing or even rationalizing). If the people around me knew our story, they’d know that too. They’re judging with the information they have, and they simply don’t have the information needed to judge appropriately.
It takes practice and time, but you’ll get there. It’s like building up an armor one layer at a time.
ADDitude Community Moderator, Author & Mentor on Parenting ADHD, Mom to teen w/ ADHD, LDs, and autism