Ross Greene teaches us that “behavior is communication,” in his book, The Explosive Child. So, what is she trying to communicate when she’s getting angry and lashing out? Frustration? Overwhelm? Poor self-regulation that needs strengthening? Feeling misunderstood or like her input isn’t being heard? These are just a few of the many possibilities.
Start by noticing what is going on and what environment she’s in when this happens. Address any triggers you discern. The only way to change behavior is to work on the reason WHY behind it.
I can tell you, starting puberty, especially in girls, is tough. It’s a very confusing and emotional time for kids.
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