Nothing can change until he wants it to. The more you bring it up, the less receptive he will be to hearing it.
You have to be willing to throw out your preconceived notions of what relationships should be in order to be part of a successful relationship with ADHD in the mix. That’s not to say you shouldn’t expect love and respect, just that you have to be willing to receive that in ways that aren’t necessarily traditional or expected.
Here are some tips for successful relationships with adults with ADHD:
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