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leanz
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Does anyone need to learn about shame and embarrassment?
These are difficult emotions that arise in us. Everybody feels all emotions. Sometimes what we feel bad about, others don’t. Those are differences and they are there in any two people. Husband-wife, mother daughter, father-son.

May be your child needs to learn right from wrong. In general or as per your standard. That is ok. All children need to. We too did when we were young and still sometimes do.

Connect more with your child. Playing board games together helps us connect. Find what works for you.

Use one liners. They work great for me.
I repeat ‘we don’t do that dear’ for many things. It took some time but he listens after that one liner better.

As he is growing up, connection and praise work better for me than other strategies. These are definitely not quick. However I’m sure they will be great for the years to come.

Refrain from yelling.
Take care of yourself. Fill ur cup first. Let love flow easily from your heart.

Good luck!