It’s super important for him to learn to self-advocate, especially if he’s considering college one day. So, I’m glad his school is supporting that. What we did in middle school was only call my son in to review any changes we made to his accommodations, positive discussion, and asking him what he felt he needed to help with school. He was not in the room for discussions about where he was struggling, because he was so sensitive to that and because I often had to fight tooth and nail.
He attended his entire high school transition meeting in May and will attend IEP meetings in high school. At this age, he has to start speaking up for himself, and owning his strengths and weaknesses.
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