Thank you all for the advice and encouragement. I’m working on getting in with a psychiatrist who can help. I was diagnosed at 12 but went untreated until being prescribed Adderall about 2 years ago. I’ve never worked with a mental health specialist since my ADHD diagnosis. The Adderall helps but I’ve come to realize I need more than that. My original post above is just one of my struggles. I have 3 sons and the oldest of which also has ADHD. If you’re on the outside looking in, you’d think this should help but while I understand his struggles, I struggle with parenting him the right way. I’m constantly second guessing how to handle each situation he throws at me and an 8 year old with ADHD doesn’t allow time to consider all options and pick the right one. My wife gets mad because I oscillate between being too harsh on him to being too soft. She’s right about that; I really don’t have an “in-between” area.
I hope I can get in with a therapist who can talk to all of us at some point because this definitely seems like a group effort.