Oh, and, YOU ARE NOT DEFECTIVE. My ADHD motto is: no shame, no blame, be kind. There is no truth where there is no love. Love you first & all else that’s worthwhile will stem from there. There is no amount of self-torture that will ever engender the response you want. Stop kicking your own A– and start kicking a– by telling the ADD to shove it and being happy anyway! You deserve to be happy, but only you can give yourself that gift. You’re worth fighting for — we all are.