Dear Charlie Brown,
It takes courage to face your part of estrangement in a relationship. Good for you. Realize that your intense desire to “have your wife back” is natural and is natures way of telling you that you have work to do. If you are not familiar with the movie Fireproof or the book mentioned in it – the Love Dare, I highly recommend both. You do not have to be religious to gain insight from the works into the mysteries of the human heart! Now is not a time for feeling and then acting. It is time to lead your heart–regardless of what you are feeling. Good luck my friend. You can do what it takes.