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gentlygenli
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You can’t heal her. What you can do is be who you should have been all along, consistently, so that her trust and faith in you is restored. She can’t feel warm towards someone she doesn’t trust. You have to fix the everyday minutiae. That’s where marriages are made and broken.

She needs to believe she isn’t being used for your gratification. Any touches for now should be only for her with no strings attached. Would she like a foot massage after a hard day? Back massage? Just a shoulder pat when she expresses frustration (but not if it’s about you!!!).

Give for now. She’s had too much taken. Do for her what she values and appreciates.

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