My husband was at his worst several years ago. I loved him but was at the end of my rope. I was going to divorce him. When we separated I didn’t see how he could manage on his own. He did. His lifestyle was not my lifestyle, but he managed. Whatever diagnosis your husband gets, it may or may not be accurate. Whatever you do, he may or may not ‘get better’. My husband eventually got the help he needed, and we are back together. I do not feel the same about him due to terrible things he has done, but I still love him, and he is different now. You may see I occasionally post about my frustrations with my husband, but mostly things are good. All you can do is take care of yourself and your children, getting whatever help and support you and they need, help your husband as you can without being ‘co-dependent’, and hope for the best.
All the best,