First, you need to accept that you are not failing her. She’s struggling because she has a difference in her brain and the way it works. No amount of healthy living and positive parenting will change her brain and make her neurotypical.
Don’t get me wrong, a healthy lifestyle and positive parenting are crucial strategies for ADHD. You’re most definitely on the right track. But those things won’t “fix” ADHD, because there is no cure.
Once you’ve done all of these types of approaches, but it’s not helping enough, that often signals that it’s time to consider medication and further treatment for ADHD.
Here’s more on next steps:
ADDitude Community Moderator, Author & Mentor on Parenting ADHD, Mom to teen w/ ADHD, LDs, and autism