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Penny Williams
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I want to first commend this guy for having the self-awareness and courage to say that he needs to work through stress alone. He could stay together, because that’s often easier, but treat you poorly because he’s stressed out. Instead, he’s taking the steps he needs, which may really be best for both of you.

I also commend you for wanting to learn about ADHD and wanting to work through a relationship with struggles. That shows real caring and compassion.

I think it’s certainly acceptable to leave the door open for him later. I would discuss the stress and how he then manages it, if you both decide you want to give it another try later.

You may find some valuable advice in this article on ADHD in relationships:

10 Ways to Save Your Relationship

Penny
ADDitude Community Moderator, Author & Mentor on Parenting ADHD, Mom to teen w/ ADHD, LDs, and autism