Your story is all too common. The good news is that you’re both still in it, and you’re both committed to working on it. That’s huge. You have to have faith in the process, stay committed, and accept that it will take time.
Here are some strategies you might try as well:
ADDitude Community Moderator, Author & Mentor on Parenting ADHD, Mom to teen w/ ADHD, LDs, and autism