Jeepers, preppychicks2004, you sound exactly like my wife. She has said all the same things in your second paragraph pretty much verbatim. I wish you could talk to her instead of me!
Logically all this makes sense and I know it’s true. We have only had one counseling session after all! But logic and emotion are difficult to reconcile. I’m working on it. I feel extremely selfish (and thus ashamed) because I want to be given even the tiniest bit of affection, and it is incredibly painful to think that getting that may take months. Feelings, ugh.
Working on it. Working so hard.