Sorry to be a naysayer, but no man will every change for a woman. Find a man who treats you with love and respect. Your boyfriend will not get the help he needs until until he wants to – until he clearly sees how it benefits him. Most times, the lightbulb doesn’t go on until they are at bottom and have pretty much lost everything. There is nothing you can do to make him get help, or get better. Don’t waste your life – you deserve a better life than that.