Thank you. I’m sure it won’t get better and I long for what you have, a good partner. I am after some help and hope rather than encouragement to leave as I know this is what is probably needed for my happiness. For now I will try the GP route. I don’t think he has bipolar or aspergers as that doesn’t sound like him, I think what is confusing the ”diagnosis” is the cannabis he takes because my nephew acts the same way like jekel and hyde, awful and then sweet and he takes cannabis. It makes them nasty like alcoholism made my brother in law who now only has weak beers and is easier to live with. If the doc can give him something to help him come off his addiction to hash then he will probably be a better person. It happened to a friend’s husband and she says he is so much nicer now he doesn’t smoke weed.