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Squirrely
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I admit, 15-30 minutes every day raised my blood pressure! My ADHD has been a tool for a lot of negative self-talk, and I immediately saw the narrative:

  1. Enter with the best of intentions
  2. Succeed for a couple of days
  3. Start forgetting or getting sidetracked
  4. Hate myself for years to come

My partner and I are still working things out, but a couple of pieces that work really well for us:

  • I strongly second the Kanban board. Having a complete list in one place is imperative
  • Use visual cues. If the dishwasher is clean, put a magnet so he knows to empty it
  • Expect hills and valleys. A counselor told me ADHD people don’t really make habits, and I think she’s right. Making it today’s “crisis” might actually be a good plan, so long as the work you put in to “keep the lights on” is about equal to his “crisis spree.”
  • Have an agreed upon “minimum” – loved the article liz.cember!

Hope it helps. I’m new on my ADHD journey, and my fiance and I are still looking for a working system.

  • This reply was modified 3 years, 6 months ago by Squirrely.