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Penny Williams
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Expectations must match capability. Since ADHD is a developmental disorder, your 15-year-old is really 12-13 in a lot of areas, likely including social skills. Asking him to act like “a typical teenager his age” is asking him to do something he physically isn’t capable of. It takes kids with ADHD longer to mature. Your son will get there (driving, job, etc.) when he’s ready. Now, that doesn’t mean he can stay jobless in your home the rest of his life, it just means that he needs a little more time and room to be ready.

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Penny
ADDitude Community Moderator, Author & Mentor on Parenting ADHD, Mom to teen w/ ADHD, LDs, and autism